First off Joyeux Noël!/ Merry Christmas! to my readers!
I just returned from Midnight Mass with my brother, my mother in law Martine and Thierry (yes, despite some of the things I do, I am a good Catholic girl under it all, or at least I try to be!)
When I returned I found returned this morning, I found a question from a reader in my comments. He asked “What is the ideal client for an escort?”
Here are some things that constitute a good client for an escort (in my opinion):
1. He is respectful of the escort; This means he respects what she will and will not do, he respects her home/space, he respects her time and respects that she is doing a job like anyone else.
2. He has good hygiene, he showers or at least washes up before arrival, or upon arrival at an escorts home/hotel room.
3. He does not bargain with her on her price, he pays her upfront, and encourages her to count the cash he has given her.
4. He is mature, calm and kind.
5. He respects an escort’s safety and does ask her to do anything that might endanger her health/well-being (such as having sex without a condom).
6. He knows an hour means an hour.
7. He arrives on time, not early,not late, if he is running late by a few minutes he promptly calls her with the time of his arrival.
8. He brings extra condoms with him.
9. He does arrive intoxicated or high or on any substance.
10. He does not smoke in her home, unless she invites him to.
11. He is an older; this is not something that is a “must have” for a good client, but its something a lot of escorts prefer, since older men generally=respectful men. When I was an escort, I met respectful men of all ages.
I find 8. He brings extra condoms with him. rather odd. May be its a US/UK difference. The point makes me wonder …..
As a client I would not expect to bring condoms with me, kind of dangerous to carry around, would need some explaining if they were discovered by my better half.
On a more serious note, very few escorts would use condoms provided by their clients, unless there was a great deal of trust. The ease of tampering with the condom so that it would split during intercourse would cause most escorts not to use condoms provided by the client.
This may be a UK difference, I don’t know. In any case at the lower end of the sex industry in the UK, women are able to get free supplies of condoms from out reach organisations.
Thanks for the observation, when I was an escort,I always preferred when a client brought a few extra condoms just in case I was running low. As an escort, I saw a small grouping of repeat clients and I put a lot of trust in these men just as they put a lot of trust in me. To me, I would find no danger in using a sealed condom that a client brought, even if he could tamper with it,what would his reasoning be for doing so unless he had some kind of mental illness? I would think that any client going to an escort would want to do everything he could to avoid STD’s and Pregnancy. Just my two cents.
Not the case in the UK. There are many clients who ask for bare back sex. Ask any of the escorts in the UK who provide only protected sex, and you will find most have been asked if they provide BB.
There seem to be a growing number of clients who become devious and will go to any length to fulfill the need for BB. STDs does not seem an issue for these clients, antibiotics clear up much, and HIV now seems not to be the problem it once was.
I don’t agree with unprotected sex amongst promiscious partners, and the requirement of many men in the UK for unprotected sex is a worrying trend. All escorts need to be sure they protect themselves, and making sure you can rely on your condoms is one very important step, and losing control of the supply chain is not a good idea.
Only two years ago at the University of Cambridge, a batch of condoms distributed by the students union had been compromised where someone had put a small pin prick in each condom. Yes careful examination of the package would have shown the sabatoage.
Wow. that is scary. Thanks for sharing the info, hopefully this trend has not come to the united states, and if it has thanks for warning escorts on this blog.
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