Update on me.

Its so tempting to go back to escorting–but I am in a throughly monogamous relationship–well not really. My partner is of a certain age, as they say in France and thus worried about my chances of me getting pregnant. I tell him, ” Look, I have HAD experience….TRUST me….” He dosn’t know JUST how much experience we are talking about, but he insists that he has to go under the knife and fix himself just to make sure, and then there the thing that he’s a little shakey about going under the knife ( I guess I can understand, I wouldn’t want to be cut–down there).

So no sex. No sex. After everything that I have been through. No sex. Ok, so we do other things. We get to third base. You’d think I would leave him? You’d think that wouldn’t you. I guess that whats holding me back is love–I love the guy more then he deserves.

So I have been thinking, what would happen if I went back to escorting? Just once. One appointment.

It surprises me sometimes that I was an escort as well. How did I do it? How did I sleep with that many guys, most of which I was not attracted to? Sometimes, I even get an icky feeling thinking about it.  Could I ever do it again after thinking back?

I doubt it.

So now I have my big girl relationship and my big girl job, I work in a normal business where I don’t have to worry about operating illegally.

Still there is always temptation.

My personal blacklist.

Ok, its time to take some personal vigilante action against some past and flakey clients, ones who book appointments and rudely never show up. From now on, they will end up in my blog. If there is anyone else who has been flaked on or has been harmed by a client, you may report them here…

The first one is “Leo” he is from the San Gabriel Valley, and his phone number 626-203-2146 and his e-mail adress is atef709@yahoo.com.

Beware!!

An escorting FAQ

Some frequently asked questions about escorting!

Is escorting legal?

NO, except if you are in a few specific counties in Nevada.

How can you tell for sure that it is a sting/escort is a cop?

You can’t, you ALWAYS run this risk.

What if I fall in love with an escort, will she become my girlfriend?

Despite movies like Pretty Women, this probably will not happen.

What is the going rate for an escort in LA?

$200-$400, on adv.

How do I remain safe when visiting an escort?

Never go to a hotel room, this is a common place for stings. Go to in an incall or outcall. Trust your instincts, if it doesn’t seem right, it probably isn’t.

Is hiring an escort legal?

No, unless she is JUST accompanying you to an event.

Can I find a good escort on Craigslist?

Yes, Craigslist can be a great place to meet an escort, but you might run into a lot of garbage as well.

 

 

 

My life now…

I have my thoughts of returning occasionally, but I completely resigned never to actively come out of retirement. I have closed the book on that chapter of life. Now, my view of men has changed. Once, I didn’t need to be concerned who I slipped into bed with, it didn’t take an attraction to turn me on, but recently the thought of being with someone I am  not attracted to in an intimate fashion is not something I would longer with to do, its amazing how monogamy changes you.  Like I have said, these days there is just one guy, he has never known what I did, but somehow our relationship is so much better now that I have stopped. 

For a single girl, escorting is just fine, but for someone who is seeing someone on top of seeing clients is a big thing–especially for me.

These days, I don’t discourage anyone from entering the profession, but I don’t encourage anyone either. The safest sex you can have is monogamous or with a few carefully chosen partners. Escorting has a lot of risks, but it also has a lot of good things as well, the money and for a lady that likes sex, the constant opportunity to satisfy ones self.

Must…stay…monogamous….argh!

Now comes one of the biggest challenge of retiring from escorting, monogamy. I have chosen to go from lady of the night with a list of suitors a mile long to one guy…all the time. It may seem normal to you, boyfriends, but when you have done it all, like I have, its a little boring.

I love him, really I do, he’s my best friend…my life’s breath…but he’s just one man…no variety.

Ahhhh, after you have been with so many its so hard…

Another post on Sugar daddies, (because you asked!!)

?:Hi, I’m curious about sugardaddy relationships. Can a sugardaddy still be successful in getting together with very attractive women even if he is a little socially inexperienced and only earning a young professional’s level of income, say between $60,000 and $80,000?

Response:  It might be a little hard, depending on how much money you would like to ” donate” to the young lady.On these salaries, we are talking about $5,000 to $6500 a month, a good salary for someone young, but small compared to what a lot of sugar daddies have to offer. 

It really depends on how much she is asking for, a lot of girls, especially ones who are “sugar babies” know their worth especially if they are drop dead gorgeous.

Also a girl who is going for a sugar daddy is generally going for a man who has some experience in the world.

This is one of those rare exceptions when I would say you might be better going with an escort, it will cost you less money and you will probably get a more satisfying “experience”. Once you have seen a one or a few escorts, you can graduate to sugar babies.

How not to get caught if you are hiring an escort.

There is only one sure fire way to hire an escort and not get caught. Don’t do it.

If you are going to do it anyway despite my warning, here are some tips to help you avoid getting caught.

1. Don’t see escorts at hotels especially those seedy roadside motels that look like the Bates Motel from Psycho. This is the most common place police conduct stings.

2. Don’t assume asking an escort she is a cop is going to get you anywhere, because it won’t.

3. Frequent escorts who provide outcall ( a cop is not going to take time to come to your house, but a sting might be held at an incall location even a house/apartment)

4. Frequent escorts in large cities such as Los Angeles or NY, the LAPD and NYPD have better things to do then worry about people seeing escorts.

5. Use an escort who is rated on SFredbook.com or any other like site, that way you know they are legit.

6. If you want another sure fire safe way, but want the quasi escort experience, try the legal alternative to escorting which is having a sugar baby/mutually beneficial arrangement. That can be found at Madamecoquette.com

Should you be or see an escort an while you are with someone else

One of the trickiest things to think of if you are an escort, hiring an escort is the people you might be cheating on. Should you have a boyfriend while you are an escort, it would involve lies and deception, and putting you monogamous partner at risk. Should you see an escort while you are married or have a girlfriend. Here are my opinions on the subject. 

For girls that are escorts, the choice to remain single while in the profession might be to your and you potential partner’s interests. I dated while I had an escort, but only entered a truly monogamous relationship once I “retired”, I had dated the boyfriend I have now for a whole year I was an escort, but I had never decided to make the relationship a real one until late, for a long time I just couldn’t handle being an escort and having a boyfriend, and further more it would not have been right of me to pursue such a life.

For men who are married, I believe seeing an escort is a cleaner option to investing in a mistress, it will protect your privacy and not get you into any messy emotional situations you don’t want to be in. Either that or get a sugar baby, one whom you have a quasi escort style relationship, this option is cleaner and less risky legally then hiring an escort and less emotionally hazardous then having a mistress.  ( For a good sugar baby finding service, check out Madamecoquette.com)

At the end of the day…it’s all up to you…

XOXO Isabella

The legal alternative to escorting

Looking for a legal alternative to escorting or hiring an escort? Don’t want to get busted by the cops?  I have come across a new site which matches up sugar daddies and sugar babies doing matches discreetly, in person rather then over the web like sugardaddie.com or seekingarrangement.com, the site is geared towards very beautiful ladies and wealthy, professional gentleman.

For more information, visit Madamecoquette.com

Some people are just jerks and psychos. They need to reported.

Ok, so I am out of the whole escorting scene, but I still find myself strangely drawn to it, not that I am going to become an escort again, but I just feel like I am still connected it, like it is still a part of me. That’s why I am writing this blog, to offer advice to ladies who were once in my place, to guys who may have questions about hiring escorts or being safe. I am still here for them

One of the worst parts of escorting is dealing with jerks. Married guys who think they own you, men who pry into your personal life, people that stand you up for appointments, perverts and so on.  And beyond that, there are guys who are into drugs, rapists, etc, fortunately people I have never needed to deal with, but people that are out there that need to be reported.

With prostitution being illegal, we need some kind of vigilante thing that is better then NationalBlacklist.org. Its run by a man who could not possibly understand what it means to be an escort.

People in this profession need to be protected, because the police are not there to do so.